If you ask me now what is love ten years ago, i will answer you that a guy and a girl go out together, hold hand and go around window shopping, share one drink with two straws, talk in phone few hours everyday and sending short messages to each others in school etc…
have you ever think like me? sweet huh..
if five years ago, you ask me the same question – what is love? well, i would have said a couple hugging each other at the beach, sweet talking and enjoying the wind at the same time, go out with a bunch of friends and show off your girlfriend to those who don’t have, secretly smooching inside the car, and always promise that their love will last forever but deep inside guys’ mind wanting to bring their girl to a place where they offer room for them to… etc.. (you know what i mean)
Is this what love mean to you? or you have a better version of it?
Some people told me this love is sacrifice, some said love is control each other, some also said love is having sex, different people gave different answer.
After 3 years of that thinking, i have come to realize that it was totally wrong, it is not love at all. i would say that it is just self seeking for own interest only. then what is the true meaning of love? when you say ‘I love you’, what do you mean by that?
In the book 1 corinthian 13, the love chapter, define love for us that,
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I believe this is really true, all this characteristic of love will show during the first few week when you have your boyfriend/girlfriend, you will always patient (wait for him/her eventhough slow), kind (help him/her to do things), not self-seeking (always think of other, their benefit first)… etc..
If you are in a relationship, think about it, what is the ultimate purpose for your relationship? for fun? for showing off? for physical intimacy?
Those who are thinking to start a relationship, what is your goal for starting it? is it the same as what i list above, or for the sake of dating? or greater thing than this?
“I didn’t want to play games with her although I wanted us to start going on dates, i wasn’t interested in dating for the sake of dating. I wanted more than anything else to please God and find out if marriage was His plan for us. And I wanted this process to be one we could look back on with fondness and without regret – whether or not we married each other.” – Joshua Harris
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